Why does it matter to be authentic?

One thing everyone does in life is ‘judging’. You end up in an environment that each step you make is judged by yourself, your family, your friends, and your colleagues… Some people reply to this by saying ‘so what?’…

I think it is easy to live in a judgmental world as you don’t really need to think about things. You just need to follow people or things, right?!? If going to the best university would make your family happy, just do it. Don’t question! It does not matter if you want to be someone else. I know that it is easy to complain about these things but it is not easy to get out of this cycle.

Today, I found a solution for myself as many others have found out before. I accept myself for who I am and I will not allow people to hurt me by judging my decisions. I am pretty sure that they are not aware of the fact that their judgments hurt me. I know that they comment on my decisions for my own good. Therefore, there is no point to get angry to them, upset them or blame them! Yeah, I said blaming them, because we tend to blame others when things get wrong rather than taking responsibility for our own decisions!

I almost understood why I was blaming others though because I was not fully giving the decisions based on my own interest. So far, I have made some decisions that my society identified them “very impressive” so it must be good for me! I became happy, too! Then, there have been some mistakes I have made… When the same people who were very impressed with my good decisions heard those mistakes, they judged me the most. I got upset, too. At the end of the day, I blamed myself the most! I literally thought that I didn’t deserve to be happy because I failed to satisfy the society.

Now, I have come to the point that I can’t live my life trying to satisfy others, but live my life to satisfy myself. Only then, I can build healthy relationships with my family, my friends and my colleagues!

I did some mistakes! I learned from them the most! I am forgiving myself! I did some good things! I learned from them, as well! I am proud of myself! Cheers to everything that has made me who I am right now! Someone who follows her dreams (judged as unrealistic)… Someone who is open to explore and experiment new things (judged as easy going)… Someone who is honest to her loved ones (judged as weak)… Someone who openly shows her emotions (judged as exaggerating)… Someone who tries to seek her own authenticity (judged as immature)…

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